Q. My first born is one year old. We want to have another baby by the time she is three. I'm just curious about specific things that might change once we have our second child. (Life situations, Daily routines, motherly expectations.) Please feel free to share your experiences. Thanks!
A. I nannied two boys 2.5 years apart, and now I have twins.
I don't find 2 kids to be very difficult. It is easier IMO if they are closer in ages, since they can do the same things at some point.
2 kids fit into a standard car, there are lots of double strollers out there.
The worst ages for nannying were when they were 1 and 3. The 3 year old had no self control, and the 1 year old was mobile so would go up to the 3 year old.
By 2 and 4 the preschooler had more self control, and the 2 year old could defend himself. It isn't that you want them to bite etc. but it is useful when trying to keep your big brother from beating up on you! Of course I broke up most fights, but that encourages the older one to start things when you are not looking. Once the younger one can defend himself and chomps down on the older one a couple times the older one learns to respect him, even when the caregivers back is turned.
Also by 2 and 4 it was in many ways easier to have both of them, since they played together. I could watch them play, instead of being the sole playmate.
I prefer 2, so was REALLY glad I had twins. :D My guys are 9 months old and already play peek-a-boo on their own with each other, while I sit back and catch it all on camcorder.
They fight sometimes already to, but as much as possible I try to let them work it out themselves. At least they are equally matched!
Most of my experience is with 2 of course, but I find 2 is better than 1, except for that 1 and 3 stage. That's a bad one. Helpless baby who is mobile and menacing sometimes jealous toddler.
It was nice when I had the 1 year old to myself, when the 3 year old was in preschool, but by age 2 it was really nicer to have both boys together. The important thing IMO is to make sure they love each other. There are things you can do to help that along, and avoid rivalry, and that will make your whole family a lot more pleasant. I would think about getting a book or two on how to get siblings to get along. My brother and I fought like cats and dogs, and maybe if my parents had helped us with it we could have gotten along better. We were 6 years apart though, which can be a lost cause for siblings!
I'm a big fan of early scheduling and routines, so would definitely consider that with a second baby. It would help your first a lot know what to expect when, and help the new baby sleep longer earlier.
I don't find 2 kids to be very difficult. It is easier IMO if they are closer in ages, since they can do the same things at some point.
2 kids fit into a standard car, there are lots of double strollers out there.
The worst ages for nannying were when they were 1 and 3. The 3 year old had no self control, and the 1 year old was mobile so would go up to the 3 year old.
By 2 and 4 the preschooler had more self control, and the 2 year old could defend himself. It isn't that you want them to bite etc. but it is useful when trying to keep your big brother from beating up on you! Of course I broke up most fights, but that encourages the older one to start things when you are not looking. Once the younger one can defend himself and chomps down on the older one a couple times the older one learns to respect him, even when the caregivers back is turned.
Also by 2 and 4 it was in many ways easier to have both of them, since they played together. I could watch them play, instead of being the sole playmate.
I prefer 2, so was REALLY glad I had twins. :D My guys are 9 months old and already play peek-a-boo on their own with each other, while I sit back and catch it all on camcorder.
They fight sometimes already to, but as much as possible I try to let them work it out themselves. At least they are equally matched!
Most of my experience is with 2 of course, but I find 2 is better than 1, except for that 1 and 3 stage. That's a bad one. Helpless baby who is mobile and menacing sometimes jealous toddler.
It was nice when I had the 1 year old to myself, when the 3 year old was in preschool, but by age 2 it was really nicer to have both boys together. The important thing IMO is to make sure they love each other. There are things you can do to help that along, and avoid rivalry, and that will make your whole family a lot more pleasant. I would think about getting a book or two on how to get siblings to get along. My brother and I fought like cats and dogs, and maybe if my parents had helped us with it we could have gotten along better. We were 6 years apart though, which can be a lost cause for siblings!
I'm a big fan of early scheduling and routines, so would definitely consider that with a second baby. It would help your first a lot know what to expect when, and help the new baby sleep longer earlier.
What exactly do i need to put in my hospital bag for the baby?
Q. Every book tells me what I need to take for myself but it doesn't give to much detail about what I need for my baby. Please help!
A. For babies:
1. Cute blanket to use in photos or to wrap in
2. 2 outfits
3. Hat (if you want it to match outfit)
4. Socks (again, if you want)
5. Car seats
6. Baby book to put hand/footprints in
You:
-Boppy pillow (will come in handy during feedings)
-Camera/camcorder
-Loose fitting clothes that you don't mind getting dirty (some urine, blood, etc might get on it). I stayed in my gowns the entire time of my stay and I was comfy.
-Robe/slippers
-Laptop
-Snacks
-Glasses/contact lenses
-Cell phone & charger
-brush
-notebook to keep track of who you received gifts from
-Don't forget dad! :)
Also, you might want to bring an extra suitcase because of how much stuff you will accumulate there!
They provide:
-hospital grade pump, to borrow if you want to
-Extra parts for your breast pump. I have a Medela and they gave me a whole kit for it that I got to take home.
-Nipple pads
-socks
-diapers, wipes, hats, baby shampoo, pacifiers, formula, Vaseline/gauze (for circumcisions) for baby
-toiletries/towels, except for razors so if you wanted to shave armpits or legs-bring your own
You can bring a bottle just in case, but I wouldn't introduce one until baby is 3-4 weeks until they are well established with breastfeeding. However, in case something happens to where you are unable to nurse, then you could pump and bottle feed as a last resort.
Don't bring a diaper bag because you won't need it and it will be a waste of space.
Hope this helps and congrats!
1. Cute blanket to use in photos or to wrap in
2. 2 outfits
3. Hat (if you want it to match outfit)
4. Socks (again, if you want)
5. Car seats
6. Baby book to put hand/footprints in
You:
-Boppy pillow (will come in handy during feedings)
-Camera/camcorder
-Loose fitting clothes that you don't mind getting dirty (some urine, blood, etc might get on it). I stayed in my gowns the entire time of my stay and I was comfy.
-Robe/slippers
-Laptop
-Snacks
-Glasses/contact lenses
-Cell phone & charger
-brush
-notebook to keep track of who you received gifts from
-Don't forget dad! :)
Also, you might want to bring an extra suitcase because of how much stuff you will accumulate there!
They provide:
-hospital grade pump, to borrow if you want to
-Extra parts for your breast pump. I have a Medela and they gave me a whole kit for it that I got to take home.
-Nipple pads
-socks
-diapers, wipes, hats, baby shampoo, pacifiers, formula, Vaseline/gauze (for circumcisions) for baby
-toiletries/towels, except for razors so if you wanted to shave armpits or legs-bring your own
You can bring a bottle just in case, but I wouldn't introduce one until baby is 3-4 weeks until they are well established with breastfeeding. However, in case something happens to where you are unable to nurse, then you could pump and bottle feed as a last resort.
Don't bring a diaper bag because you won't need it and it will be a waste of space.
Hope this helps and congrats!
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